Max is positive for HIV, not Alex. They started going together two years ago, after Max knew he was living with HIV.
Both participated in a major study on the transmissibility of the virus that showed a person b & # 39; HIV followed effective treatment could not transmit the virus through sex.
The couple agreed their story with BBC Radio 5 hoping that it will inspire more people to be tested and eliminate some stigmas still exist.
The history & # 39; Max
"I was 24 years old when I discovered that HIV positive. FS & # 39; it is a shock, a blow in the stomach. When told, I started with time. I did not know x & # 39; do. I go back to work or stay in my life? I say to anyone? How can & # 39; find a boyfriend now?
The nurse at the clinic which gave me results prepared and said: "Do not worry, everything is good".
How did the test regularly, discovered at a very early stage, and that was good news because the sooner treatment begins, the better.
The HIV medication works by reduce the amount of virus Blood in & # 39; levels not found. This means that the virus can not be transmitted during sex, even without a condom.
Taking the medicine I need is something quite easy:only I need one tablet a day at the time of dinner. Patients & # 39; type 1 diabetes need four & # 39; five daily injections.
Being HIV positive to cost me more mentally than physically: the anxiety I feel when I say to the other people about my illness.
My diagnosis was brought to my family and closest friends. The majority of them responded strongly, but not all appoġġjawni.
Friend, type & # 39; me adviser, told me: "Frankly, I do not want to look or have sex with & # 39; someone with HIV. I always like to question whether take their medications or not. "
I felt that was ittikkettja people with HIV as "reckless" and himself as "responsible" to avoid contact with & # 39; people like me.
This vision issued in the '80s, when HIV was considered personal bankruptcy or death sentence. People still associate HIV with & # 39; those of tombstone image on television or & # 39; Princess Diana enlarging people with AIDS in the hospital.
Many refused to touch people with HIV and many more to have intimate contact. But today, those & # 39; us living with HIV can expect to live as any other person.
The reaction of my consultant really affettwatni. I started with attacks & # 39; panic. Never before esperjenzajthom, but did not take a breath. Could not stay & # 39; abroad.
Saturday just after Alex learned he was living with HIV. We were both interested in academics and we & # 39; issues & # 39; & # 39 sex and; sexuality, so it created a bond. He already knew that HIV positive account, so it was not something that I mentioned.
M & # 39; & # 39 in INIX sure; what extent stop the use of condoms when maintaining relations Sexual not turning a blind eye in & # 39; mind, but I'm worried they will feel encouraged not to use condoms to feel better.
Last year, participated in the study partner, Which showed b & # 39; powerful way that people HIV can & # 39; have sex without condom and the silence – virus if they take proper treatment.
I think if more people know this, there is much less fear & # 39; or stigma about HIV and no one has any behavior about to be tested. "
How does treatment for HIV
- HIV is treated & # 39; antiretrovirals, to stop the virus replication.
- The amount of & # 39; blood virus then measured to see how the treatment is working well.
- Can & # 39; take up to six months for this to become viral load indetettabbli.
- People with HIV who receive effective treatment against HIV and whose viral load was not found for six months or more, they can not transmit the virus through sex.
- The NHS, of the British public health service, says that condom is the most effective way to protect against HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STD).
The history & # 39; Alex
"The first impression I had & # 39; Max seemed he was very sure of itself.
I met & # 39; it during a political conference of the Green Party of the United Kingdom. I would not & # 39; & # 39 group; Young gay – x & # 39; likely supplied quite intimidating as a collective – and even so came and said: "Hi."
I discovered that I was HIV positive days after I met him, When he posted on his Facebook status photograph near his medications.
One of the reasons why inħajt me was precisely that he was so open when he is discussing who had HIV. I always admired his confidence and his refusal to submit to social pressure.
I also like the fact that, even when he was dealing with the impact of his diagnosis, he spent part of his time and emotional energy to try to help others.
We met a few months after that conference and this is where everything started.
No I was scared & # 39; to outpositivenothing. On the contrary, I felt sad because I knew that after diagnosis had a rejection from other people.
When had sex without condoms, with nothing I worried about HIV infection because I knew that my boyfriend was taking his medication.
I trust him with & # 39; fullest. Some people say that a virus people can not take their medicines, but this is just prejudice. If you live with HIV, Your health depends on taking & # 39; that the tablet day. Not something to forget.
With all my family għidtx Max is HIV positive, do not think that is important.
Tell my parents before brought home for dinner, but only because they took his tablet with dinner and did not want to nħollt the table to do it.
It is unfortunate that was not disclosed better than HIV can not be transmitted. Too many people suffer from the stigma of the disease due to any reason.
The opinions of people on HIV are anchored in the past. We need to manage the change. "